In the realm of holistic wellness and intimacy, few voices resonate as profoundly as that of Allie Theiss, MSc CSC ABS. With a diverse array of expertise spanning from holistic sexology to intuitive energy work, Allie has emerged as a guiding light for individuals seeking to cultivate deeper connections and embrace holistic well-being. As a holistic sexologist, Allie’s approach transcends the physical, delving into the intricate interplay of mind, body, and spirit within intimate relationships. Through her innovative techniques and intuitive insights, she empowers individuals to navigate the complexities of intimacy with confidence and authenticity. In this exclusive interview, we have the privilege of delving into the multifaceted expertise of Allie Theiss, exploring the profound insights she offers as a holistic sexologist, integrative wellness coach, and intuitive energy worker. Join Mystic Mag as we uncover the secrets to empowering intimacy and embracing holistic well-being with Allie Theiss.
As a holistic sexologist and coach, how do you approach the intersection of physical health, mental well-being, and sexual empowerment in your practice?
That’s a good question. I find it absolutely fascinating, which is why I put together the SHE-BE-ME framework for sexual health in women. It delves into multiple layers of our being. We don’t have one singular factor that determines our desire for sex; rather, numerous layers need to align for us to feel healthy and empowered in that aspect of our lives. My framework covers mental health, physical health, stress, empowerment, and more.
Can you share a bit about your journey to becoming a holistic sexologist and how your background in integrative wellness influences your approach to sexuality coaching?
It’s been a long journey; I’m 56 now. You know, I grew up Catholic, and when they told me I couldn’t do something like sex, I thought, “Hello?” So, sex itself has fascinated me since I was told I couldn’t do it. When I started doing psychic readings and tarot card readings for the public back in 2000, a lot of people asked me about love. Love remains a big topic, regardless of whether your house is falling apart, your health is terrible, or you are broke. And when they talked about love, they often asked follow-up questions that included sex. I would think, “Oh God, I’m not quite sure how to answer that, to be honest with you.” While I had personal experiences, I lacked educational knowledge of what was going on.
To make a long story short, I discovered out-of-body ecstasy, which involves our energy, body, and sex. Between out-of-body sex and people asking me questions about sex, I started delving into spiritual coaching. As people continued to inquire about sex, I decided to pursue a sex coaching certification from Sex Coach U, concurrently obtaining my bachelor’s and master’s degrees in psychology. Later, in my 50s, I thought, “What the heck, let’s go back to school and get my PhD in mind-body medicine.” So, I pursued that path, focusing on female sexual desire within mind-body medicine. Hopefully, I’ll complete my dissertation in the next year or two.
It’s amazing what can affect a female’s desire for sex. It’s not just a matter of her not being in the mood; there are many layers to consider in addressing that lack of desire.
What type of services do you offer?
At the Passion Zone, I offer a sexologist consultation, which essentially involves us having a chat, similar to when you visit your doctor. During this consultation, I’ll provide guidance on what steps to take next.
Additionally, I provide sexual wellness coaching sessions, where we sit down for 45 minutes to discuss and create a plan to address any challenges you may be facing regarding sexual wellness. I am a strong advocate for flower essences and frequently use them myself. I encourage my clients to use them as well. I offer a passion flower essence and a sexual desire flower essence.
One of my favorite offerings is the Desire Package, which involves a 45-minute to an hour-long discussion. I then create a personalized flower essence combination specifically for you. You also receive a booklet containing 25-30 pages of notes to support your energy work. We follow up in another 30 days to ensure everything is on track.
I also provide SensualShui, a service based on Feng Shui principles that creates a bedroom environment conducive to love and intimacy. It’s important to have the bedroom set up for romance when you’re ready to engage in sexual activities.
Finally, I offer three and six-month coaching packages for those seeking ongoing support and guidance in their sexual wellness journey.
Integrative wellness encompasses various aspects of health. How do you address issues such as stress, anxiety, or trauma that may impact an individual’s sexual health and relationships?
Let me tell you, when I got involved with mind-body medicine and started working on my PhD, I realized how detrimental stress can be. We’re often told throughout our lives that stress is bad for us, but I didn’t fully grasp just how much it can impact every aspect of our lives, including sexual wellness. That’s why I like to assist my clients with managing stress, mainly through flower essences. Unlike traditional medicine, which typically works from the inside out, flower essences work on the energy body. They don’t interfere with any medication you may be taking.
During our sessions, we discuss how clients cope with stress. Do they have stress relief practices? If sex isn’t a stress reliever for them, what alternatives do they have? Maybe they enjoy going for walks or practicing meditation. Even small activities can make a difference in managing stress and anxiety. Speaking of anxiety, it’s like being stuck on a hamster wheel of constant thoughts circling in your head. Often, high levels of anxiety indicate that the energy from the root chakra is elevated. In our sessions, we work on balancing their energy and provide strategies to tackle anxiety and stress in their daily lives.
What strategies do you employ to create a safe and non-judgmental space for clients to explore their sexual concerns and desires?
Yes, that’s a very good question. It’s still important to remain non-judgmental because we are all so unique. Our likes, dislikes, fetishes, and how we navigate our sex lives vary significantly from person to person. There’s no judgment from me regarding your sex life—whether it’s who you have sex with, how many times, or if you choose to have sex with yourself. It’s a safe and open space; you can share anything with me without fear of judgment.
You won’t receive the disapproving looks you might get from your mother or friend when discussing specific topics. I maintain a neutral expression and listen. One of the biggest challenges is finding someone you can talk to openly about sex. Even among girlfriends, discussing sex can be difficult as there’s often a tendency to either one-up each other in sharing tales of bad or great sex.
I have a diffuser and a Himalayan salt lamp in my space to create a calm atmosphere. While I don’t currently offer in-person sessions, I hope to start within the next year.
